Too much to ask
Niall Horan's Too Much to Ask is a typical breakup song. I gravitated to it as my divorce neared about a year ago. After 20 years with the same woman, and my "heart dancing" without her, I was met with a potent mix of emotions of which I could scarcely make sense. Somewhere in our heads, so many of us think when we break up with someone that our rift could be easily repaired. "If they would only (fill in the blank)," we tell ourselves, we'd be inclined to give them another chance. When I told Kate, my ex-wife, I was leaving her the first time, she clearly wasn't listening. I can still see the room we were in as clearly as this one. I can see my anger in the air. I can feel that moment like it was yesterday and not more than five years ago. After trying and failing to make our marriage work over the next few years, I again told her I was going to leave her. A great storm was in me for the longest time as I struggled with that possibility, and onc...